Month: December 2012

December 2012

Do Over

December 27, 2012 / Uncategorized

One of the most dreaded days of the year is fast approaching. You know the day I am talking about – the day all of the holiday decorations get taken down and packed away until next year. The soft glow of the twinkle lights come down, the cozy holiday throws come off the couch, and the sentimental ornaments collected over the years get packed up. Everything feels empty and your surroundings look stark. Such is the feeling when going through divorce. Whether you physically move spaces or not, it feels like you pack and put away all of your sentimental

Protecting the Precious

December 20, 2012 / Uncategorized

Few longings run more deeply than the one to guard our young children from harm. Before we even leave the hospital with our tiny bundle, we know our job is to ensure their safety at all times. We worry about our children. The primal urge to protect causes sleepless nights at the report of a toddler bite at day care, the thought of the first day of kindergarten, or the absence of an invitation to a first grader’s birthday party. We would gladly suffer the pain ourselves rather than witness our children suffer. We do our best to protect them.

A Year of Happy

December 13, 2012 / Doing Divorce

I went through my divorce in 2011. It was not a happy year. My former spouse and I reached the amicable decision to divorce together and there were no surprises, nor was there any mistreatment of each other. So as far as divorcing went, I actually had some of the best of circumstances. Notwithstanding, it was a year filled up to the brim with uncertainty, sadness, worry and grief as every part of my life changed. About this time last year, I decided I would never in my life have a repeat of the year I had just “survived.” I

Sacred Time

December 6, 2012 / Uncategorized

For as long as I can remember I have enjoyed setting goals and reaching them. Whether it was saving a sum of money for college or throwing a birthday party for a friend, I got a kick out of making a plan and making it happen. Each year I set enthusiastic goals. Each goal has a deadline for completion before the end of year holidays. I declare these weeks a sacred time. To be sacred means to be dedicated to a specific purpose. I dedicate the final weeks of each year to creating a season of joy and meaning. I