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Month: October 2013

Month: October 2013

Under that Mask

Did you ever spend a Friday evening at the symphony when your pick was watching the game at the sports bar? Go to the 3 year old’s neice’s birthday party when you just wanted to take a nap?  Spend the weekend camping instead of enjoying a movie marathon on the sofa? Marriage is made of compromise, and the longer the marriage the greater the number of compromises. The more we practice anything, the easier it becomes.  Before we know it, we might not even notice we’re doing it. A hallmark of a generous spouse is one who derives joy from
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Happy 100!

In honor of our 100th blog post I asked my team to tell me what they love about being part of a divorce team and working with our clients. Our 100 learnings and reasons can best be captured in our top ten list that we believe and benefit from to the 10th degree: 1. Solutions. We get to be solution finders. No two divorces are the same. We are constantly presented with new and unique challenges and problems to be resolved. We work creatively with our clients, opposing lawyers and judges to find good solutions for families. 2. Empowerment. We
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Fun Size Fun

“How have you been?” I asked with a sincere smile as we waited in line to enter the bar association meeting room. He looked down and hesitated. “Good. I’ve been good, “ he replied, appearing a little anxious.  “I ask because I know how hard you work,” I said. This observation was easy to make about my fellow attorneys who are prone to working long hours and skipping vacations. “But are you having any fun?” I persisted, having forgotten my coach manners. “You’d be proud of me,” he said, looking up for the first time. I’m trying to keep Fridays
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Taking Stock

“I don’t know what to do.”  “I don’t know what I want.”  “I am not sure.”  “I don’t know if I will regret this decision.”  “What would you do?”  “What if I make the wrong decision, can I change it later?” I am asked any variety of these questions from clients on a weekly basis.  As a person who particularly suffers when I am unsure, I can relate.  There are few feelings less unsettling when looking at making decisions about your and your children’s future, than being unsure. A couple of weeks ago I was at a leadership retreat.  If
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Punched in the Gut

We argued about the garlic in the guacamole. He stormed outside. I stood at the bathroom mirror focusing my shaking hand on my mascara when I heard the front door open and his footsteps on the stairs. He opened the bathroom door, punched me in the stomach, and calmly said, “Now you can tell your friends I’m abusive.” I was young but I was strong, confident, and independent. How was I reduced to justifying the purchase of a two dollar tube of lipstick and defending why I wanted to see a movie with a girlfriend?  How did I stay with
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