4 Reasons Why a Divorce May be Better for Your Children

Not every divorce is bad for children.  If there is a lot of conflict between their parents, some children may even feel a sense of relief when they learn their parents are getting divorced.  While there are a number of good reasons for divorce, parents may feel that staying together for the benefit of the children is best.  However, that is not always the case — especially under these circumstances:

Not every divorce is bad for children.  If there is a lot of conflict between their parents, some children may even feel a sense of relief when they learn their parents are getting divorced.  While there are a number of good reasons for divorce, parents may feel that staying together for the benefit of the children is best.  However, that is not always the case — especially under these circumstances:

When a parent suffers from addiction.

Most people don’t fully realize the effect an addicted parent can have on a child.  Children imitate the actions of their parents, so divorce may be the only option to stop the cycle of addiction in your family.

When a parent is financially irresponsible.

In many American households today, it has become necessary for both parents to work to support the family.  Children understand that to have a roof over their heads, food to eat, and clothes to wear, adults have to earn money.  However, if one parent spends money unwisely or quits their job without another one lined up, the entire family is put in financial jeopardy.  Having this type of parent as an example teaches a child to either be a spendthrift or a miser — neither of which is a healthy habit to develop. 

When parents don’t express love.

A child’s concept of what love means is formed early by watching how their parents express love toward each other.  If there is no affection or intimacy between parents, a child grows up thinking this is how marriage is supposed to be and makes it almost impossible for them to have a fulfilling love relationship as an adult. 

When divorce frees parents to find a truly loving relationship, children can benefit from seeing what marriage is supposed to be — a relationship where two people love, care, and support each other in healthy ways.  With that example, children can develop new and better ideas about relationships that will bring them greater happiness as adults.

When parents are unhappy.

When children grow up in a household where both parents are unhappy and that unhappiness is expressed either through anger or cold silence, the emotional lives of the children are negatively impacted.  The ability to express emotions in a healthy way is never learned, leading to another generation of unhappy adults.  The best parent is a healthy, stable parent — not only for harmony in the household, but also as a model for children to learn how to cope with their own emotions.

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