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Month: October 2012

Month: October 2012

Dark Days

I stroke her hand as she lies in her blue print hospital gown, surrounded by machines and tubes and bags. It’s been five days since my friend spoke. I read her poems and prayers, talk to her about our children, and am mildly curious about my peacefulness. I long to remain near. How is it that I could be so comfortable in an intensive care room that some cannot bear to enter and that makes others watch the clock? It’s not my personality. I was drawn to be a lawyer, a speaker, a coach, and a writer. Never a nurturing
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Wedding Wishes

This week our firm celebrated a wedding – we witnessed a beautiful joining of two incredible people when our legal assistant, Christi, married her Aaron.  Christi was quite simply radiant on Friday evening when she pledged her love, devotion, and commitment to Aaron.  To be honest, Christi has worked alongside me for 4 years and I have never seen her so happy, relaxed and bliss-filled. It occurred to me that Christi found hope and love, despite spending 40 hours of her week working for clients experiencing the collapse of those ideals.  That despite staring in the face of divorce and
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Wonderful Comfort

After being assured that all guests at the table had been served, heads bowed, then the priest said a blessing. No one hesitated to make the sign of the cross. Everyone recited the familiar words in unison.  All in attendance were raised in the same faith which included this simple prayer prior to each meal. The peacefulness at the conclusion of this moment was palpable. There is a wonderful comfort in belonging. In being a part of a group where there is a shared understanding of who we are and the rules we follow as we go through life.  It
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Normal

After thousands of initial divorce consultations with men and women contemplating whether or not to move forward with a divorce, I find myself frequently questioning normal.  People often reveal to me the intimate details of their married lives.  They reveal how she lives upstairs, he lives downstairs.  They reveal how they no longer talk to their spouses – at all.  They reveal how they have been unhappy for years and years before making it to the chair across my desk.  And I think “When did that become normal?” My parents just celebrated their 42nd wedding anniversary and for the last
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