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Month: February 2013

February 2013

Creating Control

Last week at lunch, the waitress inadvertently dumped a cup of marinara sauce all over my suit.  I didn’t move while she went to collect a towel to help me wipe it off.  I didn’t yell at her.  It was an accident.  She was flustered and upset and scrambling to offer reimbursement of my dry cleaning bill.  I just smiled and thanked her for helping me get cleaned up and said “no worries at all.”  The gentleman I was with said to me “You have amazing control.” I often hear clients bemoaning the other side seemingly having the “upper hand.” 
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Just Another Day

It’s valentine’s day and it’s been impossible to ignore it. The barrage of reminders of holiday of love are everywhere. Romantic commercials of cuddling couples and tiny jewelry boxes as soft music plays. Notices to place your order for the long stemmed red roses in every newspaper. Mountains of pink cupcakes and heart shaped cookies in the grocery aisle. It’s just another day, we try to convince ourselves. For those of us who will not be sipping champagne over a romantic dinner or receiving a flower delivery in front of envious coworkers, it can be hard to convince ourselves that
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Happy Even After

My ex-husband got engaged last month.  Suddenly I felt my reaction being watched.  Maybe watched isn’t the right word – but paid attention to.  I observed that people would mention it with slight hesitation or were inclined perhaps to bring it up in an almost a negative way.  Those people in my life who care about me were testing the waters to make sure this news did not hurt, bother, or annoy me. The truth is it did not.  Not in the least.  My former spouse and I have kept open lines of communication since our divorce, for the benefit
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