Month: April 2017

April 2017

A Single Statement

April 27, 2017 / Doing Divorce

She wrote them all out: 42 reasons that she loved me, a gift for my 42nd birthday. Each reason was handwritten on a separate notecard. “When I tell you drama, you tell me the truth about what you think.” “You are okay with random Target runs.” “You pretend to not know when we do things like this.” Some funny, some sweet – the cards collectively made me cry. The one that most made me pause read “You prove being a single mother is not only possible, but amazing. (You raise/treat/encourage us so well).” She has never referred to me as a

What is Considered “Income” for Purposes of Calculating Child Support in Nebraska?

April 25, 2017 / Children, Divorce Made Simple

In Nebraska, child support is determined by the Nebraska Child Support Guidelines. The Guidelines are rules that the Nebraska courts use to determine which parent will pay child support and how much child support will be paid each month. The amount of child support ordered depends heavily on each parent’s gross income. While determining a parent’s gross income might seem relatively straightforward, there can be many complexities and unique factors to consider depending on the facts of each case. If both parents work traditional 40 hour per week jobs with consistent salaries, calculating child support can be a matter of

My Birthday

April 20, 2017 / Doing Divorce

There I am. Whirling and twirling amid bubbles on my 7th birthday in my peach party dress. Not a care in the world, perfectly present, and feeling loved and special in every way. I love this image. I love who I am in this moment. I refer to it often – particularly around my birthday. For me, this is how birthdays should feel. This week I will celebrate not just another birthday, but another year of learnings, moments both happy and sad and everything in between, and newfound wisdom and growth. As many of you know about me, I love

My Busy Brain

April 13, 2017 / Doing Divorce

It started slowly. I started getting sick to my stomach prior to plane trips. And then I was nauseous on road trips. The triggers were random and illogical given my lifelong love of travel. It took me a while to notice and connect the dots given my travel time was no less than months in between trips. When additional triggers started, I decided I should see a doctor (after my mom told me to). I had good blood pressure, my pulse was also normal, and the blood panel results showed a solid row of normal. She asked about my lifestyle.

Sentimental Spaces

April 6, 2017 / Doing Divorce

She was born last night. Just before midnight Rowan arrived on April 5, 2017 after much anticipation into her parents’ arms. Rowan is the granddaughter of my long time paralegal, Lori. In the last couple of weeks, as the birth became imminent, Lori was asked by her middle son to be in the delivery room to help support with both her wisdom and photography skills. Lori could not have been more thrilled to be asked to bear witness to life being brought into this world. Lori asked me to pull out the birth albums I have of my own daughters