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Month: January 2019

Month: January 2019

#TBT Can They Do That?

My stomach and heart clenched up when I received my daughter’s message.  “Dad is going to drop us off at the mall while he runs an errand.”  My children were 6th and 4th graders at the time. “He what????”  I wanted to reply.  But I didn’t.  First I fumed for a full two minutes.  Then I surveyed my options: I could coincidentally be at that very mall at the exact same time my girls were wandering amidst a crowd of predator strangers; I could call and tell him exactly what I thought of that plan and threaten to take him
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What Every Single Parent Needs to Know About Estate Planning

It is estimated that one-third of American children live in a single-parent household, and single parents are well advised to create an estate plan that provides protection for their children. Having an estate plan can also provide you with welcome peace of mind. Here are the elements of an estate plan designed to help you protect your children: Will. A Will is a legal document that details your wishes for how your assets should be distributed after you die and designates a guardian for minor children. If you die without one, a Nebraska probate court will make those decisions for
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The Sensitive Personal Information You Need to Share with Your Divorce Lawyer

Divorce can not only be emotionally draining; there are times when it can be downright embarrassing. There may be some circumstances you experience that you wouldn’t even tell your best friend about. However, there is someone you should tell: your attorney. Here are five pieces of sensitive information you should definitely share with your divorce lawyer: You had an affair. Infidelity is one of the most common reasons why couples split, and if there has been infidelity in your marriage, you need to let your attorney know so he or she is not put at a disadvantage when defending your
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Winter Icky Guy

I pull the thick flannel sheet a little higher over my shoulders without opening my eyes. As I lie on my side in the morning darkness, the temperature is in the single digits and the wind chill puts it below zero. Winter is really here. I roll on to my back with my eyes still closed. I snuggle more deeply into sheets and try my usual tricks. I mentally scan my body to notice how it feels. I consider the good that lies ahead in my day to have a flash of gratitude. I slowly wiggle my toes. My body
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Winter Retreat

I slowly unpacked my essentials: Journal √ Stack of books√ Yoga mat√ Candle√ Herbal tea√ White satin slippers√ Each winter I take a solo retreat for reflection. While living alone gives me ample opportunity for solitude and sitting on my sofa, I know myself.  Without a boundary of distance and drive time, my mind quickly reverts to my To Do list telling me I still have not hung that picture, organized those photos, or cleaned beneath my bed. Any call from a friend  to see a good film easily becomes an excuse for not allowing myself time to ponder. I
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Swanson’s Steps

I thought it was a misprint.  14 children.  I reread it.  My logical mind struggled.  I convinced myself “that must include grandchildren.”  I was reading the obituary of a beloved Saint Cecilia Elementary teacher – Mrs. Margaret Swanson.  She taught both of my daughters in their first grade years. Mrs. Swanson perfectly struck the near impossible balance of being both strict and sweet.  She cherished her first graders and I have no doubt loved them wholeheartedly.  I recall her showing extra patience with my spunky Sophia. It was during Sophia’s year that Mrs. Swanson received her cancer diagnosis.  That would
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Farewell, Precious Sisters

When I was a child, I rarely interacted with any of my extended family members. Uncle Leonard sporadically sat at our table for a fried chicken dinner. Two of my father’s sisters occasionally brought panic with unannounced visits to our home. And I cannot recall a single birthday, holiday, or wedding celebrated with a cousin. Four of my five brothers each gifted me a sister-in-law.  Being wed I gained more. Marriage, divorce, death, and choice can determine who we declare family.  One of my stepdaughters once referred to me as “my friend who married my father.”  She was grown and
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Reflections on a Holiday That Wasn’t

My Christmas tree died a week before Christmas.  The branches were weighed down to the floor in a giant 8-foot droop. The star on top tilted to the left along with the sagging sapless branches. I should have known it was a sign.  I should have known it would contribute to the sadness that would settle down over my usually happy holiday home. My daughters left my home the morning of December 19th and didn’t return until the late evening of December 26th.  It was my first attempt in 14 years at not being with my children on either December
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Confidence Comes Calling

The enthusiasm is palpable. I see energy in the actions. The new gym membership. The new meditation practice. The new juicer. My coaching calendar fills with appointments. Recovering from the holiday hullabaloo, we set our sights on the year ahead. Some set SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, time-based) goals. Some identify intentions. Some resolve to be better or do better. Some simply pick a single word. One focus for the year. Regardless of the strategy, in a few weeks or a few months, many of us will have not only lost the zest of the new year, we will have
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