Month: April 2019

April 2019

10 Golden Rules to Protect Your Kids During a Divorce

April 30, 2019 / Children, Divorce Made Simple

Ideally, parents going through a divorce make it a priority to work together to lessen the negative impact the divorce may have on their children. Although it may be difficult for you to set aside your own marital differences during this stressful time, you can make the transition easier for your children if you follow these 10 rules: Don’t blame each other. When you explain the divorce to your children, do it together and avoid blaming each other. It is important for your children to love each parent unconditionally; placing blame makes it more likely a child will build up

Appreciating April

April 26, 2019 / NEXT: An Empowerment Series

Some months seem more special than others. Take December: Christmas, my birthday, and my children coming home for the holidays. Then there’s February: Ground Hog Prom, Valentine’s Day, and the birthdays of three of my sibs. But April. April wins my heart. April imbues me with appreciation. April is the birth month of many amazing beings in my life. Koledon who can cook or sew or grow practically anything, Roger who is fast feeling like a brother, Hannah in Atlanta with her ever ready smile. Add to them Caroline, Mo, and so many more that I adore. Some of the

3 Mistakes to Avoid During Your Divorce

April 23, 2019 / Divorce Made Simple, Divorce Tips

In an effort to transition through your divorce relatively unscathed — both financially and emotionally – you will need to take an active role in attempting to keep things civil. In other words, you have a role to play in maintaining the civility in your divorce. Long gone are the days when divorce was all about assigning fault and sorting out who’s the winner and who’s the loser. The goal for divorce today is fairness and equitable treatment for both parties — and if children are involved, keeping their interests paramount. One of the best ways to avoid making the

Trash or Treasure

April 19, 2019 / NEXT: An Empowerment Series

I’d made it a mile from home in another attempt at a couch to 5k when I stopped. It was trash collection day in the neighborhood, so maybe that’s all it was. Trash. I got closer to see a couple of school books sprawled on the edge of the sidewalk, a black spiral notebook beside them. Had a teen been bullied and their back pack emptied? Had someone been kicked out of the house by an angry parent? Was I really nosing around in someone’s garbage? I was. I looked inside the books for a name. Nothing. I picked up

10 Factors That Influence How Quickly You Recover From Divorce

April 16, 2019 / Divorce Made Simple

According to a recent article in Psychology Today, how quickly and well you recover from a divorce depends largely on these 10 factors: 1. The length of the marriage. The longer you and your spouse were together, the more entwined your lives became — which makes it more likely that it will take longer for the two of you to become used to functioning as a single person rather than a couple. 2. If the divorce was a surprise. If you had no idea that your spouse was going to ask you for a divorce, the surprise element can make

Texas Beauties

April 12, 2019 / NEXT: An Empowerment Series

I told myself I wasn’t going back. The last time I spent a week drinking wheatgrass juice and eating plates of sprouts sprinkled with seaweed I said I was satisfied. No need to return. I’d find some other way to cleanse my body and mind. But here I was. Back again. The chance to join both my best friend and my life coach in warm weather while winter overstayed its welcome in Nebraska was irresistible. A taste of the Texas beauty I was about to experience in the week ahead first appeared on the drive in the country from the

It’s Only Me

April 5, 2019 / NEXT: An Empowerment Series

“Why should I bother? No one is going to see it. It’s only me.” As I listened to my friend make his case for never making his bed, I immediately understood. Why rush to do the dishes when there’s no one but you and your pet rabbit to see it? Who cares if there are crumbs in between the sofa cushions, when only you know they are there? If a friend is dropping in for a chat, I dust the table top, trim the wick so the candle will light, and hang a fresh towel in the bathroom. Clothes slung