On eve of the first day of a
family members gathered in the late afternoon shade of the oak tree where the
groom stood waiting. The petite bride in her vintage dress walked slowly toward
him. At the first sight of her, there was no holding back his tears. Their
faith in their future was evident.
As June brides beam during
this month of weddings, faith shines as vows are made without hesitation.
Despite all of the uncertainty before them, couples courageously set forth into
the uncharted waters of marriage.
When we marry, we cannot
know the myriad of challenges we face. We cannot envision the
miscommunications, missteps, and misfortunes that may befall us when we commit
to entwine our lives with another. Money, sex, time, and children all hold the
potential for putting us in territory we have never seen before.
It is easier to have faith
in our future when we are amidst the innocence of passionate young love. It’s
harder to have faith when your marriage is shattered and your world is in
Yet the demand for faith is
no less essential when we commit to our lives at the end of a marriage than at
the beginning of one. Whether or not we initiated the divorce, going forward
means facing the same uncertainty and unpredictability about our future.
We can’t know. We lack
complete information. There are countless variables. We are unsure and often unsteady. We are in a sea of the unforeseen, subject to
winds from all directions that we cannot control.
Such conditions demand
faith. And the place to put that faith is in you.
Faith that you know who you
are. Faith that you will be willing to remain true to yourself. Faith that you
know what matters most. Faith that you
are not alone. Faith that there is life after divorce.
With faith in yourself, you
can take the next courageous step as into your new life as fearlessly as a
couple on their wedding day, confident you will survive the journey.