“I’m surprised by the depth of my sadness,” I say, tears falling from eyes still swollen from the news of the day before. “She meant a lot to a lot of people who fought for justice, especially for the oppressed,” my sweetheart comforts.  Yes. A lot. From little girls to longtime lawyers.  One gift of the many past deaths of those I cherished is that loss of a life—no matter how extraordinary— can be seen…

“What did you wear?” she asked enthusiastically. It was a sweet acknowledgment that the talk I’d given that day was of some import. “Wait. Let me guess. You wore black.” I chuckled at the teasing of my friend knowing my closet is full of black dresses, black shirts, and black skirts. In my immediate defense…

Patrick and Shirley Dunne are my parents.  Pat and Shirley celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary on September 19, 2020.  They married with little fanfare but great love in a tiny church in Portland, Oregon.  After the ceremony, they did not go to a wedding reception.  There wasn’t one.  Instead, they went to the hospital to…

Undoubtedly, a big life change, such as a divorce can cause emotional distress.  Unfortunately, a stigma regarding mental health support still exists.  Many parents worry that seeking professional help may make them appear unstable or be used against them in a custody proceeding.  However, if you are seeing a therapist, acknowledge yourself for getting the…

The September the sky was still dark as we arrived at the airport. The few parked cars scattered across the giant lots looked lonely. We entered the terminal and an eerie silence surrounded the attentive airline agents waiting at their stations. Travelers were noticeably on edge. This was not September in a global pandemic. Rather,…

9/8   Dad’s birthday. He would have turned 101 but he died at 64, the age I am now 9/11 A shared memory of tragedy for our entire county 9/14 Death of my husband John 9/20 Birth of my first child September is always big for me, from being sworn in as a member of the…