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Tag: Money

Being Dishonest

I was sneaking down the stairs to the basement to avoid both the creaky steps and detection.  I made my way to the Sam’s Club storage stash and started taking the packs of toilet paper out to hide them in a different place.  I was nervous and moving quickly.  The shame of my scheming and deceitful behavior was one thought and tear away.  I felt like a thief.  I was in my own home. To remember, let alone admit to this behavior, immediately fills me with embarrassment.  I had a choice to ignore this part of my past and pretend
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Money Secrets

As a young wife many years ago, my husband was suspicious about my spending. In an effort to defend, I began reporting my use of cash. Throughout each month I recorded my daily purchases on a small tablet:               5/3  Lipstick                 $2               5/7  Pantyhose            $3               5/8  Lunch                   $4 At the end of the month I silently placed the list atop his dresser. Whether it was that my husband feared he could not trust me or I feared that he didn’t,
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Divorce Dollars

My final year of law school I earned $6,200. My husband and I and our black lab Cardozo lived in an 800 square foot house. I rode my Honda scooter to class. Weekends were spent searching for finds at our favorite thrift stores. More than a decade later, my annual earnings as a full-time lawyer were $6,511. It was 1991, and the year of my divorce. How was it that I worked full-time practicing law with the work ethic of my Midwestern German parents and that this was all I had to show for? As I make my annual April
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Money

There are times of the year and times of our lives when money worries increase.  January can be one of those.  Credit card statements from holiday gift giving arrive. The cold means more dollars for keeping our car going, our sidewalks clear, and our homes warm. Whether it’s January or July, during a divorce, the money worries multiply. Our entire financial picture changes during divorce.  The same dollars which once managed to support one household must now provide for two.  Replacing furniture, movers, deposits, and legal fees.  All expenses added to the budget. The overwhelm can be so great that
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